Maybe you can relate: you’re cruising along in life doing the best you can, working on making things happen. And BAM, you’re stung by a negative comment, a judgmental friend or a rude stranger. Welcome to the hater zone!
Haters seem to spring up when we try to do a great job. A critic of your parenting skills, your relationship status (or lack thereof), how you dress, where you live or your weight. At the end of all the haters’ catcalls is an invitation to low self-esteem and self-loathing-ville.
Haters can affect us in two ways. They may creep out and attack us for things we're doing or sharing. Or the idea of them can prevent us from moving forward and expressing our true selves. Both are detrimental to our spirit.
Many of my life coaching clients express their fear of moving forward because of what haters might say or do. If they publish the book, or leave the job in corporate, what will those around them think?
Ask yourself if you're actually allowing what people could say to stop you from following your own heart. Recognize that haters can’t get to us when we feel confident and self-assured. The best way to avoid feeling victimized by the string of negativity is to improve your relationship with yourself.
Here are powerful reminders from my book, Find Your Happy, that can help you gain confidence and feel secure.
10 Mantras To Build Self-Confidence
1. Confidence comes through action.
2. The only approval you need is your own.
3. The fastest way to improve self-confidence is to do the exact thing you fear.
4. Accept everything you are — and aren’t. That is true happiness.
5. At the end of the day, what matters most is how you see yourself.
6. What others say is a reflection of them, not you.
7. You are good enough.
8. It isn't who you are that holds you back; it's who you think you aren't.
9. No one can make you feel unworthy without your permission.
10. There is only one you for all time. Fearlessly be your true self. You matter.
Confucius, whose name literally means “Master Kong”, lived 551-479 BCE. He was a Chinese thinker and philosopher, whose teachings have deeply influenced not only Asian thought and life. He presented himself as a “transmitter who invented nothing” and he really pointed out the importance of learning, which is one reason he is seen by Chinese people as “The Greatest Master”.
One of the best known sources of Confucius are The Analects, a collection of his teachings, which was compiled many years after his death. A fountain of extremely mindful quotes springs from these ancient descriptions.
Many of them are universal and timeless in their beautiful and simple truth and they are as valid today as on the day they left Confucius’ mouth. Here we take a look at 10 of the most inspiring quotes by Confucius.
Confucius says …
1. “Never impose on others what you would not choose for yourself.”
It’s the “Golden Rule” and the essence of real compassion . Not compassion as in looking down on someone and have pity for another, this is no real compassion. Compassion means seeing another person 100% equal to yourself (in value, not in differentials on the surface which ultimately do not matter). In fact it is seeing yourself in every other person. And therefore you cannot harm anyone without also harming yourself.
It doesn’t mean to lose individuality or self-worth, on the contrary – but the other person earns the same gift.
2. “Real knowledge is to know the extent of one’s ignorance.”
That’s my personal favorite quote since it expresses something very profound which also is very useful to know: Ignorance is a willful neglect or refusal to acquire knowledge. It is not widen one’s own perspective in order to see a broader truth. As an example it would be to have racist thoughts and not realizing that all men are equal.
The ultimate truth therefore is where there is absolutely no ignorance, meaning where the perspective or consciousness has become one with all that there is. In Buddhism ignorance (Avidyā) is seen as the primary cause of suffering. Liberation is Enlightenment. Another quote by Confucius here is “Ignorance is the night of the mind, but a night without moon and star.”
3. “I hear and I forget. I see and I remember. I do and I understand.”
Those quotes are just perfect. What he is expressing here is that we have to experience something ourselves in order to really understand it. If we are hearing something it might be interesting. If we are seeing something it might be beautiful. But only if we feel in happening to ourselves we can really know how it is.
Picture something nice as winning an Olympic gold medal or picture something terrifying as the loss of a loved one. Can you know this by hearing it or by seeing it? Or do you have to do it and experience it yourself to really know it?
Along with this realization comes the awareness that you cannot understand someone or his actions from hearing or seeing it from the outside. You have to feel empathic compassion for him to really know what it is like. To know and not to do is really not to know. Only by applying our knowledge we can validate it’s harmony with reality, it’s truth.
4. “Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.”
Amazing. It calls for dropping the inner mask through which we constantly see and evaluate the world, distorted by our wants and belief-systems. Here we have to look at things as they are. Just like a newborn child would look at things. Then we are able to really see again, without instant labeling of what we see and therefore only really seeing our label. If we become able to do this – just for a second without judgment, we can see that everything in nature is as it should be. And in this natural perfection lies beauty.
5. “The Superior Man is aware of Righteousness, the inferior man is aware of advantage.”
Another quote is “The object of the superior man is truth.” It is the value of integrity: Do we act to our best knowledge of truth or do we bend ourselves and violate our integrity in order to gain an advantage? Do we play fair game or use perfidious tactics?
To be truthful to ourselves is also important to the development of (good) character. And it is the only straight way to liberation.
6. “Wheresoever you go, go with all your heart.”
Whatever you do and whatever you commit to, do it fully, give your all – one hundred percent. It is the essence of Carpe Diem – Seizing the day and it’s surely the best way to be satisfied with what we do and get the best results.
7. “Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in getting up every time we do.”
There is no failure, there are only valuable learning experiences. Or as Thomas Edison about inventing the light bulb said: “I have not failed, I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” The important thing is not giving up, but learning and then improving by using this feedback to get better and ultimately succeed.
A quote expressing the same principle is “A man who has committed a mistake and doesn’t correct it, is committing another mistake.”
8. “He who learns but does not think, is lost. He who thinks but does not learn is in great danger.”
Confucius explains the connection of learning and reflection. Reflection of that what we learned by thinking or of the results we get by applying the knowledge. “Study without reflection is a waste of time; reflection without study is dangerous” is a similar quote by Confucius. Learning is only useful if we connect the learning within our own minds, with what we already know and what is useful for us. This reflection of any knowledge also saves us from blindly following any knowledge without checking its truthfulness and validity to us.
I think everybody experienced learning when we really want this knowledge and interweave it with what we already know. If there is a need or problem we want to solve, the consume knowledge much more effective than it happens for students in many universities.
9. “He that would perfect his work must first sharpen his tools.”
This quote calls for planning and preparation. This includes getting and improving the personal skills we need to be successful. If we want to hold speeches we have to become good with communication skills. If we want to win a race we have to train for it. If we want to do a big project we need knowledge in project management. Steven Covey calls it Sharpening the saw, read about it here.
10. “If you look into your own heart, and you find nothing wrong there, what is there to worry about? What is there to fear?”
It shows that our primary work lies within ourselves: to work on ourselves and improve will automatically take care of the outside world if we use our abilities then. “When we see men of a contrary character, we should turn inwards and examine ourselves.” The solution to problems is not “out there”. It is the Inside-Out approach: success and happiness can only be found by working on ourselves. It also entails the spiritual message to look inside and to discover ourselves fully.
Source: “Confucius says: The Top 10 Wise Confucius Quotes,” from myrkothum.com
Right now our education system is doing more to indoctrinate our children than to educate them. In fact, that has been the case for quite some time. Our young minds are being told to accept authority as truth instead of truth as authority, and teachers talk at the students instead of with them.Teachers have become repeaters of information. They are merely regurgitating everything they once learned from their own teachers, and perpetuating the recycling of information; information that has managed to evade scrutiny for generations. Children are no longer the masters of their own learning, and instead, their minds are being treated as storage containers.
The factory model of education, with its focus on academic and economic elitism, is churning out obedient workers for the system, encouraged to conform every step of the way. We are not being treated as organic, creative, investigative human beings, but instead as parts in the machine. The education system is filtering out the inquisitive nature of our being, with the ultimate goal being to prevent dissent against the system. The system doesn’t want thinkers. It doesn’t want people to question its methods. It wants a population that can be easily manipulated and controlled so as to relinquish all its power to the elite.
are those who say that critical thinking skills cannot be taught in
schools. Socrates would likely scoff at that notion, were he still alive
today. It was Socrates who said, “I cannot teach anybody anything; I
can only make them think.” If we’re going to solve the problem of
indoctrination in our school system, we have to learn to begin asking
questions instead of giving answers. Real learning is achieved through
the investigative process. Children have to be encouraged to search for
the answers themselves. It is up to the teachers to provide the tools
and resources necessary for the children to conduct these inquiries and
make meaningful discoveries. One well-formed question will do more to
inspire than any number of answers. In every facet of our educational
pursuits, it becomes crucial to begin an open dialogue with our
students, to encourage healthy debate and to have them form their own
The importance of teaching philosophy in
schools cannot be underestimated. In a world where most of humanity is
running on the treadmill with the blinders on, it is paramount that we
re-evaluate our own perspectives from time to time, and look at the big
picture. What teaching philosophy does is it gets us thinking, it gets
us questioning, and it gets us contemplating. Without these skills,
humanity will continue to function on autopilot, and we will allow those
in power to continue to dominate, oppress and enslave us in every way.
We need to reclaim our own minds…
Before the Europeans came to America, it
is estimated that anywhere from 1.2 million to 12 million Native
Americans inhabited the land. The population of the Native Americans was
reduced to 250,000, due to mass murder, genocide, imported diseases,
slavery and suicide. There is no question about it, these people
suffered a great tragedy. One could argue that it is the most
devastating thing to ever happen to any population of people in the
history of the world. Yet, little to no attention is given to this
tragedy. One has to wonder, why?
Not only were the Native American people killed, but much of their customs, traditions and spirituality were lost along with them. Perhaps this was another reason for the genocide? These people were truly connected and in tune with Mother Earth, often referred to as the Keepers of the Earth. They taught to “walk lightly upon the Earth and live in balance and harmony.” Maybe, if more of the Native Americans were alive today the Earth wouldn’t be in as much turmoil as it is. We can all benefit from adopting some of the ancient spiritual teachings from the Native American elders into our daily lives.
10 Pieces Of Wisdom & Quotes From Native American Elders
Great Spirit is in all things: he is in the air we breathe. The Great
Spirit is our Father, but the Earth is our Mother. She nourishes us;
that which we put into the ground she returns to us.” –Big Thunder
(Bedagi) Wabanaki Algonquin
“The first piece, which is the
most important, is that which comes within the souls of people when
they realize their relationship, their oneness with the Universe and all
its powers and when they realize that at the center of the Universe
dwells the Great Spirit and that this center is really everywhere, it is
within each of us.” –Black Elk – Oglala Sioux
the last tree has died and the last river has been poisoned and the last
fish been caught will we realize we cannot eat money.” –Cree Indian
Go Forward With Courage
When you are in doubt, be still, and wait;
When doubt no longer exists for you then go forward with courage.
So long as mists envelop you, be still;
Be still until the sunlight pours through and dispels the mists
-As it surely will.
Then act with courage.
-Ponca Chief White Eagle
It was not given to you by your parents,
It was loaned to you by your children.
We do not inherit the Earth from our ancestors,
we borrow it from our children.
-Ancient Indian Proverb
has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it.
Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves. All things are bound
together. All things connect.” –Chief Seattle
May the stars carry your sadness away,
May the flowers fill your heart with beauty,
May hope forever wipe away your tears.
And above all, may silence make you strong.
-Chief Dan George
our white brothers arrived to make us civilized men, we didn’t have any
kind of prison. Because of this, we had no delinquents. Without a
prison, there can be no delinquents. We had no locks nor keys and
therefore, among us there were no thieves. When someone was so poor that
he couldn’t afford a horse, a tent, or a blanket, he would, in that
case, receive it all as a gift. We were too uncivilized to give great
importance to civilized property. We didn’t know any kind of money and
consequently, the value of a human being was not determined by his
wealth. We had no written laws laid down, no lawyers, no politicians,
therefore we were not able to cheat and swindle one another. We were
really in bad shape before the white men arrived and I don’t know how to
explain how we were able to manage these fundamental things that (so
they tell us) are so necessary for a civilized society.” –John (Fire)
Lame Deer Sioux Lakota
“Oh Great Spirit, help me always to
speak the truth quietly, to listen with an open mind when others speak,
and to remember the peace that may be found in silence.” –Cherokee
“Peace and happiness are available in every moment.
Peace is every step. We shall walk hand in hand. There are no political
solutions to spiritual problems. Remember: if the Creator put it there,
it is in the right place. Thesoul would have no rainbow if the eyes had
no tears. Tell your people that, since we were promised we should never
be moved, we have been moved five times.” –An Indian Chief
Mahatma Gandhi was a man that left man
powerful messages to humanity before his time here was complete. Here is
a list of 10 powerful phrases of wisdom he left to us all. One thing I
wanted to add to this to help make it very practical is that for each
one, try to see how it may relate to a certain instance or aspect of
your life so you can truly begin incorporating this into your life. It
is great to know quotes and phrases like these, but putting them into
action is a big step to begin taking. Be sure to reflect on each one and
see how you can make them a part of your life. Of course, share this
list with others so they can do the same
1. Be the change you wish to see in the world
2. What you think, you become 3. Where there is love, there is life 4. Learn as if you’ll live forever
5. Your health is your true wealth 6. Have a sense of humor 7. Your life is your message 8. Action expresses priorities 9. Our greatness is being able to remake ourselves 10. Find yourself in the service of other
powerful words Gandhi left for us in his time. The important thing to
remember is the very first phrase on here “Be the change you wish to see
in the world.” If we are to truly make change here it is not about
simply knowing or memorizing these phrases, we must truly live them and
add them into our lives. Otherwise they are just words.
In a world where death is the hunter,
my friend, there is no time for regrets or doubts.
There is only time for decisions.
Use what talent you possess. The woods
would be very silent if no bird sang
except those that sang the very best.
HENRY VAN DYKE
Our deepest fear is not that we are
inadequate. Our deepest fear is that
we are powerful beyond our measure.
It is our light, not our darkness,
that most frightens us. We ask
ourselves, who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you NOT to be?
Listening requires more
intelligence than speaking.
The greatest of all human potentials is the potential of each one of us to
empower and acknowledge the other.
People touch our lives, if only for a moment;
and yet we're not the same,
from that moment on.
The time is not important:
the moment is forever.
Just as a drop of water causes ripples in a pond,
so a thought dropped into the pool
of consciousness can cause ever-expanding
ripples in the universal human mind.
If it is delightful to fall in love with one person,
just imagine what it is like
to fall in love with everyone.
Each time a man stands up for an idea,
or acts to improve the lot of others,
or strikes out against injustice, he sends
forth a tiny ripple of hope, and crossing
each other from a million different
centres of energy and daring,
those ripples build a current that can
sweep down the mightiest walls
of oppression and resistance.
ROBERT F. KENNEDY
If you think you are too small
to be effective, you have never been in bed with a mosquito.
How lovely to think that no one need
wait a moment: we can start now,
start slowly changing the world!
How lovely that everyone, great and small,
can make a contribution towards
introducing justice straightaway.
The small things in everyday life
are no less sacred than the
great issues of human existence.
As youth fades and time brings changes,
we may change many of our present opinions.
So let us refrain from setting ourselves up
as judge of the highest matters.
Energy follows thought,
we move toward but not beyond what we can imagine.
What we assume, expect, or believe
colours and creates our experience,
by changing our expectations,
we change our experience of every aspect of life.
Live with great expectations,
and great things happen.
Poem called "Love to Spirit"
A smile that last forever
A heart that beats faster,
when you are close to me
A kiss that makes me forget
A touch that stay's with me forever
Like a rose that stand out from the rest
Your love and beauty will last forever
In my heart I have loved no-other
As time stands still and the rivers flow
And the love in your heart, could change the world forever
And the love in your heart, could bring world peace and harmony
Just knowing you has changed my world forever
And the word that comes to mind "love"
Has the ability to change us and find inner peace simple word "love"
It has so many different faces, but the word "love" can change the person view on life and peace.
By Ty Walking Deer
The highest point of life may be to live in a state of
pure flow, a "now-state" without past or future, in
which prediction and control are not factors- a state
of continual, instant-by-instant adaption to the unknown.
Joseph Chilton Pearce
The real thing is when the body realises that it can see.
Only then is one capable of knowing that the world we look at every day is only a description.
What lies before us and what lies behind us are small matters compared to what lies within us.
And when we bring what is within
out into the world,
....HENRY DAVID THOREAU
Imagine the scales of justice and equality,
representing fairness and high ideals.
Do ideals guide your life,
or do they rule it?
What is your vision?
How can you manifest it in practical ways? Do you accept yourself and others,
or do you compare the world against the scales of perfectionism?
Do you appreciate the hidden beauty in your life? Do you appreciate the perfection of imperfection? Acceptance is recognizing that whatever happens, and however we respond,
is precisely what we need for our highest good and learning.
Light, Love and Harmony to you all. Namaste.
Imagine a lone sage walking down a dark road
just before dawn, holding a lantern as a light
for others to follow.
Such sages, lighting the way for others,
can only lead where they are willing to travel.
If they fall off the path, so will those who follow.
If you were such a sage, could you lead by your example?
Could you inspire others with your integrity?
My life is my teaching.
Imagine seeing a dark cave with a large and luminous flower
floating in the darkness,
shining with the light of inner wisdom.
The flower remains hidden, for it doesn't appreciate its
own beauty, and in revealing itself,
in opening to the light, it fears it might be destroyed.
In what ways might you be like that flower?
Do you invite others into your private spaces?
What if you trusted enough to come out of the cave,
to reveal your heart, your vulnerability,
your own inner light?
Our ability to relax into life
reflects our willingness to trust.
It doesn't matter what we do
until we accept ourselves.
Once we accept ourselves,
it doesn't matter what we do.
We are here to do.
And through doing to learn,
and through learning to know,
and through knowing to experience wonder,
and through wonder to attain wisdom,
and through wisdom to find simplicity,
and through simplicity to give attention,
and through attention
to see what needs to be done.
BEN HEI HEI
There is not a moment when I do not feel
the presence of a Witness
whose eye misses nothing
and with whom I strive
to keep in tune.
The real thing is when the body realizes
that it can see.
Only then is one capable of knowing
that the world we look at every day
is only a description.
COMES THE DAWN
After a while you lean the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul,
and you learn that love doesn''t mean leaning and that company doesn't mean security,
and you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts, and presents aren't promises,
and you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes open,
with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child,
and learn to build all your roads on to-day because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans,
and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.
After awhile you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much.
So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul,
instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure.. that you are really strong and you really do have worth.
And you learn and learn.... with every goodbye you learn.
Whatever we give to life returns to us three-fold; if we love and encourage others,
believing in them, they will automatically believe us; when we help others we should keep it a secret, expecting no reward; if wronged by another, we should bless him in our heart and give him the freedom to make mistakes remembering karma injunction 'Judge not, lest ye be judge''; whatever bread you cast upon the waters will return to you in kind. If you steal you will be stolen from. If you hate, you will be hated. When you give help, you will receive help. Above all, learn to rely on your own intuition. It is the spark of the creator/ spirit within us.
What do I think of when I think of wealth? Do I think of myself happy and in good health?
Do I think wealth is my eyes that allow me to see? I can look and see the wealth around me.
Do I think wealth is my legs that enable me to walk? Wealth is my mouth, sweet words I can talk.
Do I think wealth is my home, humble and small, as in it, I feel loved by all.
Wealth is the laughter, the love and the cheer living with people who hold me dear.
Wealth is my garden full of flowers and birds of song, here I can sit in peace all day long.
What do I think of when I think of wealth? Is it the material things that sit upon my shelf?
Is it my body adorned with trinkets of gold? Or a purse full of money my mind beholds?
If I think with wealth a car and boat can be mine, then I know I am so very blind.
Wealth is not a money tree. Wealth is things given free. A rich man who gives a little money,
still has plenty of milk and honey, and in giving, the pleasure will be small.
A poor person who gives can walk tall. For what they give, they give with love from the heart,
from their ''wealth'' never will they part.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
JUST FOR TO-DAY DO NOT WORRY,
JUST FOR TO-DAY DO NOT ANGER,
HONOR YOUR PARENTS, TEACHERS, AND ELDERS,
EARN YOUR LIVING HONESTLY,
SHOW GRATITUDE TO EVERYTHING.
REIKI founder:- Dr Mikao Usui
THE PERFECT HEART
One day a young man was standing in the middle of the town proclaiming that he had the most beautiful heart in the whole valley. A large crowd gathered and they all admired his heart for it was perfect. There was not a mark or a flaw in it. Yes, they all agreed it truly was the most beautiful heart they had ever seen. The young man was very proud and boasted more loudly about his beautiful heart.
Suddenly, an old man appeared at the front of the crowd and said,'' why your heart is not nearly as beautiful as mine.'' The crowed and the young man looked at the old man's heart. It was beating strongly, but full of scars, it had places where pieces had been removed and other pieces put in, but they didn't fit quite right and there were several jagged edges. In fact, in some places there were deep gouges where whole pieces were missing. The people stared how can he say his heart is more beautiful, they thought.
The young man looked at the old man's heart and saw its state and laughed. ''You must be joking.'' He said. ''Compare your heart with mine, mine is perfect and yours is a mess of scars and tears.'' ''yes,'' said the old man, ''yours is perfect looking but I would never trade with you. You see, every scar represents a person to whom I have given my love - I tear out a piece of my heart and give it to them, and often they give me a piece of their heart which fits into the empty place in my heart, but because the pieces aren't exact, I have some rough edges, which I cherish, because they remind me of the love we shared.
Sometimes I given pieces of my heart away, and the other person hasn't returned a piece of his heart to me. These are the empty gouges- giving love is taking a chance. Although these gouges are painful, they stay open, reminding me of love I have for these people too, and I hope someday they may return and fill the space I have waiting. So now do you see what true beauty is?''
The young man stood silently with tears running down his cheeks. He walked up to the old man, reached into his perfect young and beautiful heart, and ripped a piece out. He offered it to the old man with trembling hands. The old man took his offering, placed it in his heart and then took a piece from his old scarred heart and placed it in the wound in the young man's heart. It fit, but not perfectly, as there were some jagged edges. The young man looked at his heart, not perfect anymore but more beautiful than ever, since love from the old man's heart flowed into his. They embraced and walked away side by side. AUTHOR UNKNOWN.
THE TEN INDIGENOUS AMERICAN INDIAN COMMANDMENTS.
1.Treat the Earth and all that dwell thereon with respect.
2. Remain close to the Great Spirit.
3.Show great respect for your fellow beings. 4. Work together for the benefit of all mankind. 5. Give assistance and kindness wherever needed. 6. Do what you know to be right. 7. Look after the well-being of mind and body. 8. Dedicate a share of your efforts to the greater good. 9. Be truthful and honest at all times. 10. ''The hardest one of all''
Take full responsibility for your actions. Lets all start to shine and thank Mother Earth for all that she has created.Light, love and harmony from JOURNYMAN1. ''HO '' TO ALL.
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