Many of my life coaching clients express their fear of moving forward because of what haters might say or do. If they publish the book, or leave the job in corporate, what will those around them think?

Ask yourself if you're actually allowing what people could say to stop you from following your own heart. Recognize that haters can’t get to us when we feel confident and self-assured. The best way to avoid feeling victimized by the string of negativity is to improve your relationship with yourself.

Here are powerful reminders from my book, Find Your Happy, that can help you gain confidence and feel secure.

10 Mantras To Build Self-Confidence

1. Confidence comes through action.

2. The only approval you need is your own.

3. The fastest way to improve self-confidence is to do the exact thing you fear.

4. Accept everything you are — and aren’t. That is true happiness.

5. At the end of the day, what matters most is how you see yourself.

6. What others say is a reflection of them, not you.

7. You are good enough.

8. It isn't who you are that holds you back; it's who you think you aren't.

9. No one can make you feel unworthy without your permission.

10. There is only one you for all time. Fearlessly be your true self. You matter.

It doesn’t mean to lose individuality or self-worth, on the contrary – but the other person earns the same gift.

2. “Real knowledge is to know the extent of one’s ignorance.”

That’s my personal favorite quote since it expresses something very profound which also is very useful to know: Ignorance is a willful neglect or refusal to acquire knowledge. It is not widen one’s own perspective in order to see a broader truth. As an example it would be to have racist thoughts and not realizing that all men are equal.

The ultimate truth therefore is where there is absolutely no ignorance, meaning where the perspective or consciousness has become one with all that there is. In Buddhism ignorance (Avidyā) is seen as the primary cause of suffering. Liberation is Enlightenment. Another quote by Confucius here is “Ignorance is the night of the mind, but a night without moon and star.”

3. “I hear and I forget. I see and I remember. I do and I understand.”

Those quotes are just perfect. What he is expressing here is that we have to experience something ourselves in order to really understand it. If we are hearing something it might be interesting. If we are seeing something it might be beautiful. But only if we feel in happening to ourselves we can really know how it is.

Picture something nice as winning an Olympic gold medal or picture something terrifying as the loss of a loved one. Can you know this by hearing it or by seeing it? Or do you have to do it and experience it yourself to really know it?

Along with this realization comes the awareness that you cannot understand someone or his actions from hearing or seeing it from the outside. You have to feel empathic compassion for him to really know what it is like. To know and not to do is really not to know. Only by applying our knowledge we can validate it’s harmony with reality, it’s truth.

4. “Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.”

Amazing. It calls for dropping the inner mask through which we constantly see and evaluate the world, distorted by our wants and belief-systems. Here we have to look at things as they are. Just like a newborn child would look at things. Then we are able to really see again, without instant labeling of what we see and therefore only really seeing our label. If we become able to do this – just for a second without judgment, we can see that everything in nature is as it should be. And in this natural perfection lies beauty.

5. “The Superior Man is aware of Righteousness, the inferior man is aware of advantage.”

Another quote is “The object of the superior man is truth.” It is the value of integrity: Do we act to our best knowledge of truth or do we bend ourselves and violate our integrity in order to gain an advantage? Do we play fair game or use perfidious tactics?

To be truthful to ourselves is also important to the development of (good) character. And it is the only straight way to liberation.

6. “Wheresoever you go, go with all your heart.”

Whatever you do and whatever you commit to, do it fully, give your all – one hundred percent. It is the essence of Carpe Diem – Seizing the day and it’s surely the best way to be satisfied with what we do and get the best results.

7. “Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in getting up every time we do.”

There is no failure, there are only valuable learning experiences. Or as Thomas Edison about inventing the light bulb said: “I have not failed, I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” The important thing is not giving up, but learning and then improving by using this feedback to get better and ultimately succeed.

A quote expressing the same principle is “A man who has committed a mistake and doesn’t correct it, is committing another mistake.”

8. “He who learns but does not think, is lost. He who thinks but does not learn is in great danger.”

Confucius explains the connection of learning and reflection. Reflection of that what we learned by thinking or of the results we get by applying the knowledge. “Study without reflection is a waste of time; reflection without study is dangerous” is a similar quote by Confucius. Learning is only useful if we connect the learning within our own minds, with what we already know and what is useful for us. This reflection of any knowledge also saves us from blindly following any knowledge without checking its truthfulness and validity to us.

I think everybody experienced learning when we really want this knowledge and interweave it with what we already know. If there is a need or problem we want to solve, the consume knowledge much more effective than it happens for students in many universities.

9. “He that would perfect his work must first sharpen his tools.”

This quote calls for planning and preparation. This includes getting and improving the personal skills we need to be successful. If we want to hold speeches we have to become good with communication skills. If we want to win a race we have to train for it. If we want to do a big project we need knowledge in project management. Steven Covey calls it Sharpening the saw, read about it here.

10. “If you look into your own heart, and you find nothing wrong there, what is there to worry about? What is there to fear?”

It shows that our primary work lies within ourselves: to work on ourselves and improve will automatically take care of the outside world if we use our abilities then. “When we see men of a contrary character, we should turn inwards and examine ourselves.” The solution to problems is not “out there”. It is the Inside-Out approach: success and happiness can only be found by working on ourselves. It also entails the spiritual message to look inside and to discover ourselves fully.

Source: “Confucius says: The Top 10 Wise Confucius Quotes,” from myrkothum.com

The factory model of education, with its focus on academic and economic elitism, is churning out obedient workers for the system, encouraged to conform every step of the way. We are not being treated as organic, creative, investigative human beings, but instead as parts in the machine. The education system is filtering out the inquisitive nature of our being, with the ultimate goal being to prevent dissent against the system. The system doesn’t want thinkers. It doesn’t want people to question its methods. It wants a population that can be easily manipulated and controlled so as to relinquish all its power to the elite.

There are those who say that critical thinking skills cannot be taught in schools. Socrates would likely scoff at that notion, were he still alive today. It was Socrates who said, “I cannot teach anybody anything; I can only make them think.” If we’re going to solve the problem of indoctrination in our school system, we have to learn to begin asking questions instead of giving answers. Real learning is achieved through the investigative process. Children have to be encouraged to search for the answers themselves. It is up to the teachers to provide the tools and resources necessary for the children to conduct these inquiries and make meaningful discoveries. One well-formed question will do more to inspire than any number of answers. In every facet of our educational pursuits, it becomes crucial to begin an open dialogue with our students, to encourage healthy debate and to have them form their own conclusions.

The importance of teaching philosophy in schools cannot be underestimated. In a world where most of humanity is running on the treadmill with the blinders on, it is paramount that we re-evaluate our own perspectives from time to time, and look at the big picture. What teaching philosophy does is it gets us thinking, it gets us questioning, and it gets us contemplating. Without these skills, humanity will continue to function on autopilot, and we will allow those in power to continue to dominate, oppress and enslave us in every way.

We need to reclaim our own minds…

Not only were the Native American people killed, but much of their customs, traditions and spirituality were lost along with them. Perhaps this was another reason for the genocide? These people were truly connected and in tune with Mother Earth, often referred to as the Keepers of the Earth. They taught to “walk lightly upon the Earth and live in balance and harmony.” Maybe, if more of the Native Americans were alive today the Earth wouldn’t be in as much turmoil as it is. We can all benefit from adopting some of the ancient spiritual teachings from the Native American elders into our daily lives.

10 Pieces Of Wisdom & Quotes From Native American Elders

“The Great Spirit is in all things: he is in the air we breathe. The Great Spirit is our Father, but the Earth is our Mother. She nourishes us; that which we put into the ground she returns to us.” –Big Thunder (Bedagi) Wabanaki Algonquin

“The first piece, which is the most important, is that which comes within the souls of people when they realize their relationship, their oneness with the Universe and all its powers and when they realize that at the center of the Universe dwells the Great Spirit and that this center is really everywhere, it is within each of us.” –Black Elk – Oglala Sioux

“Only when the last tree has died and the last river has been poisoned and the last fish been caught will we realize we cannot eat money.” –Cree Indian Proverb

Go Forward With Courage

When you are in doubt, be still, and wait;

When doubt no longer exists for you then go forward with courage.

So long as mists envelop you, be still;

Be still until the sunlight pours through and dispels the mists

-As it surely will.

Then act with courage.

-Ponca Chief White Eagle

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It was not given to you by your parents,

It was loaned to you by your children.

We do not inherit the Earth from our ancestors,

we borrow it from our children.

-Ancient Indian Proverb

“Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect.” –Chief Seattle

May the stars carry your sadness away,

May the flowers fill your heart with beauty,

May hope forever wipe away your tears.

And above all, may silence make you strong.

-Chief Dan George

“Before our white brothers arrived to make us civilized men, we didn’t have any kind of prison. Because of this, we had no delinquents. Without a prison, there can be no delinquents. We had no locks nor keys and therefore, among us there were no thieves. When someone was so poor that he couldn’t afford a horse, a tent, or a blanket, he would, in that case, receive it all as a gift. We were too uncivilized to give great importance to civilized property. We didn’t know any kind of money and consequently, the value of a human being was not determined by his wealth. We had no written laws laid down, no lawyers, no politicians, therefore we were not able to cheat and swindle one another. We were really in bad shape before the white men arrived and I don’t know how to explain how we were able to manage these fundamental things that (so they tell us) are so necessary for a civilized society.” –John (Fire) Lame Deer Sioux Lakota

“Oh Great Spirit, help me always to speak the truth quietly, to listen with an open mind when others speak, and to remember the peace that may be found in silence.” –Cherokee Prayer

“Peace and happiness are available in every moment. Peace is every step. We shall walk hand in hand. There are no political solutions to spiritual problems. Remember: if the Creator put it there, it is in the right place. Thesoul would have no rainbow if the eyes had no tears. Tell your people that, since we were promised we should never be moved, we have been moved five times.” –An Indian Chief

Much Love

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1. Be the change you wish to see in the world

2. What you think, you become 3. Where there is love, there is life 4. Learn as if you’ll live forever

5. Your health is your true wealth 6. Have a sense of humor 7. Your life is your message 8. Action expresses priorities 9. Our greatness is being able to remake ourselves 10. Find yourself in the service of other

Some powerful words Gandhi left for us in his time. The important thing to remember is the very first phrase on here “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” If we are to truly make change here it is not about simply knowing or memorizing these phrases, we must truly live them and add them into our lives. Otherwise they are just words.

Much Love

start slowly changing the world!

How lovely that everyone, great and small,

can make a contribution towards

introducing justice straightaway.

ANNE FRANK

The small things in everyday life

are no less sacred than the

great issues of human existence.

THOMAS MOORE

A kiss that makes me forget

A touch that stay's with me forever

Like a rose that stand out from the rest

Your love and beauty will last forever

In my heart I have loved no-other

As time stands still and the rivers flow

And the love in your heart, could change the world forever

And the love in your heart, could bring world peace and harmony

Just knowing you has changed my world forever

And the word that comes to mind "love"

Has the ability to change us and find inner peace simple word "love"

It has so many different faces, but the word "love" can change the person view on life and peace.

By Ty Walking Deer

The highest point of life may be to live in a state of

pure flow, a "now-state" without past or future, in

which prediction and control are not factors- a state

of continual, instant-by-instant adaption to the unknown.

Joseph Chilton Pearce

The real thing is when the body realises that it can see.

Only then is one capable of knowing that the world we look at every day is only a description.

Don Juan

In what ways might you be like that flower?

Do you invite others into your private spaces?

What if you trusted enough to come out of the cave,

to reveal your heart, your vulnerability,

your own inner light?

Our ability to relax into life

reflects our willingness to trust.

ANONYMOUS

It doesn't matter what we do

until we accept ourselves.

Once we accept ourselves,

it doesn't matter what we do.

Charly Heavenrich

We are here to do.

And through doing to learn,

and through learning to know,

and through knowing to experience wonder,

and through wonder to attain wisdom,

and through wisdom to find simplicity,

and through simplicity to give attention,

and through attention

to see what needs to be done.

BEN HEI HEI

There is not a moment when I do not feel

the presence of a Witness

whose eye misses nothing

and with whom I strive

to keep in tune.

MAHATMA GANDHI

The real thing is when the body realizes

that it can see.

Only then is one capable of knowing

that the world we look at every day

is only a description.

DON JUAN

UNNAMED POEM

Whatever we give to life returns to us three-fold; if we love and encourage others,

believing in them, they will automatically believe us; when we help others we should keep it a secret, expecting no reward; if wronged by another, we should bless him in our heart and give him the freedom to make mistakes remembering karma injunction 'Judge not, lest ye be judge''; whatever bread you cast upon the waters will return to you in kind. If you steal you will be stolen from. If you hate, you will be hated. When you give help, you will receive help. Above all, learn to rely on your own intuition. It is the spark of the creator/ spirit within us.

WEALTH

What do I think of when I think of wealth? Do I think of myself happy and in good health?

Do I think wealth is my eyes that allow me to see? I can look and see the wealth around me.

Do I think wealth is my legs that enable me to walk? Wealth is my mouth, sweet words I can talk.

Do I think wealth is my home, humble and small, as in it, I feel loved by all.

Wealth is the laughter, the love and the cheer living with people who hold me dear.

Wealth is my garden full of flowers and birds of song, here I can sit in peace all day long.

What do I think of when I think of wealth? Is it the material things that sit upon my shelf?

Is it my body adorned with trinkets of gold? Or a purse full of money my mind beholds?

If I think with wealth a car and boat can be mine, then I know I am so very blind.

Wealth is not a money tree. Wealth is things given free. A rich man who gives a little money,

still has plenty of milk and honey, and in giving, the pleasure will be small.

A poor person who gives can walk tall. For what they give, they give with love from the heart,

from their ''wealth'' never will they part.

The young man looked at the old man's heart and saw its state and laughed. ''You must be joking.'' He said. ''Compare your heart with mine, mine is perfect and yours is a mess of scars and tears.'' ''yes,'' said the old man, ''yours is perfect looking but I would never trade with you. You see, every scar represents a person to whom I have given my love - I tear out a piece of my heart and give it to them, and often they give me a piece of their heart which fits into the empty place in my heart, but because the pieces aren't exact, I have some rough edges, which I cherish, because they remind me of the love we shared.

Sometimes I given pieces of my heart away, and the other person hasn't returned a piece of his heart to me. These are the empty gouges- giving love is taking a chance. Although these gouges are painful, they stay open, reminding me of love I have for these people too, and I hope someday they may return and fill the space I have waiting. So now do you see what true beauty is?''

The young man stood silently with tears running down his cheeks. He walked up to the old man, reached into his perfect young and beautiful heart, and ripped a piece out. He offered it to the old man with trembling hands. The old man took his offering, placed it in his heart and then took a piece from his old scarred heart and placed it in the wound in the young man's heart. It fit, but not perfectly, as there were some jagged edges. The young man looked at his heart, not perfect anymore but more beautiful than ever, since love from the old man's heart flowed into his. They embraced and walked away side by side. AUTHOR UNKNOWN.

THE TEN INDIGENOUS AMERICAN INDIAN COMMANDMENTS.

1.Treat the Earth and all that dwell thereon with respect.

2. Remain close to the Great Spirit.

3.Show great respect for your fellow beings. 4. Work together for the benefit of all mankind. 5. Give assistance and kindness wherever needed. 6. Do what you know to be right. 7. Look after the well-being of mind and body. 8. Dedicate a share of your efforts to the greater good. 9. Be truthful and honest at all times. 10. ''The hardest one of all''

Take full responsibility for your actions. Lets all start to shine and thank Mother Earth for all that she has created.Light, love and harmony from JOURNYMAN1. ''HO '' TO ALL.

For further information and other uplifting peoms or saying's

if we are decent, industrious, and honest, if we so loyally and truly fulfill our duty, then it is my conviction that in the future as in the past the lord God will always help us: Adolf Hitler, at the Harvest Thanksgiving Festival on the Buckeburg held on 3 Oct. 1937 "freedom and fear, justice and cruelty have always been at war, and we know that God is not neutral between them." George W. Bush "Never in these long years have we offered any other prayer but this: Lord, grant to our people peace at home, and grant and preserve to them peace from the foreign foe!" : Adolf Hitler - Nuremberg Sept. 13, 1936. "The path of least resistance and least trouble is a mental rut already made. It requires troublesome work to undertake the alternation of old beliefs. Self-conceit often regards it as a sign of weakness to admit that a belief to which we have once committed ourselves is wrong. We get so identified with an idea that it is literally a "pet" notion and we rise to its defense and stop our eyes and ears to anything different" - John Dewey "Those with no sides and no causes. Those who won't take measure of their own strength, for fear of antagonizing their own weakness. Those who don't like to make waves-or enemies. Those for whom freedom, honour, truth, and principles are only literature. Those who live small, mate small, die small. It's the reductionist approach to life: if you keep it small, you'll keep it under control. If you don't make any noise, the bogeyman won't find you. But it's all an illusion, because they die too, those people who roll up their spirits into tiny little balls so as to be safe. Safe?! From what? Life is always on the edge of death; narrow streets lead to the same place as wide avenues, and a little candle burns itself out just like a flaming torch does. I choose my own way to burn." - Sophie Scholl "Most of the 'pictures in our heads' we have gained from these media-even to the point where we often do not really believe what we see before us until we read about it in the paper or hear about it on the radio."- C Wright Mills, The Power Elite “Incredibly, the number one most effective strategy for disease prevention is not going to see doctors for intoxicating prescriptions.”Dr. Leonard G. Horowitz "Fundamental deceptions damage the public's ability to maintain a rational view of the world. Once a basic untruth is rooted, it blurs a society's perception of reality and, consequently, the intelligence with which society reacts to events."- Ben H. Bagdikian, The New Media Monopoly "The worst forms of tyranny, or certainly the most successful ones, are not those we rail against but those that so insinuate themselves into the imagery of our consciousness, and the fabric of our lives, as not to be perceived as tyranny" Michael Parenti "When faced with a choice between confronting an unpleasant reality and defending a set of comforting and socially accepted beliefs, most people choose the later course." W. Lance Bennett. "... man's capacity to forget is unlimited."- Jacques Ellul, Propaganda "God and a soldier all people adore In time of war, but not before; And when war is over and all things are righted, God is neglected and an old soldier slighted": Anonymous "I have seen men march to the wars, and then I have watched their homeward tread, And they brought back bodies of living men, But their eyes were cold and dead" : Edmund Vance Cooke "When a whole nation is roaring patriotism at the top of its voice, I am fain to explore the cleanness of its hands and purity of its heart." : Ralph Waldo Emerson "If society fits you comfortably enough, you call it freedom." : Robert Frost "It is part of the general pattern of misguided policy that our country is now geared to an arms economy which was bred in an artificually induced psychosis of war hysteria and nurtured upon an incessant propaganda of fear." - b, Speech, May 15, 1951 "It is foolish in the extreme not only to resort to force before necessity compels, but especially to madly create the conditions that will lead to this necessity." - Benjamin Tucker, Liberty, May 22, 1886 "The feeling of patriotism - It is an immoral feeling because, instead of confessing himself a son of God . . . or even a free man guided by his own reason, each man under the influence of patriotism confesses himself the son of his fatherland and the slave of his government, and commits actions contrary to his reason and conscience." - Leo Tolstoy, Patriotism and Government "Most of the harm in the world is done by good people, and not by accident, lapse, or omission. It is the result of their deliberate actions, long persevered in, which they hold to be motivated by high ideals toward virtuous ends." - Isabel Paterson, The God of the Machine "That until the philosophy which holds one race superior and another inferior is finally and permanently discredited and abandoned; that until there is no longer any first-class and second-class citizens of any nation; that until the color of a man's skin is of no more significance than the color of his eyes; that until the basic human rights are equally guaranteed to all, without regard to race -- until that day, the dreams of lasting peace and world citizenship and the rule of international morality will remain but a fleeting illusion, to be pursued but never attained": Speech by - H.I.M. HAILE SELASSIE I - California 28th February 1968"In order to rally people, governments need enemies. They want us to be afraid, to hate, so we will rally behind them. And if they do not have a real enemy, they will invent one in order to mobilize us": - Thich Nhat Hanh, Contemporary Vietnamese "The biggest lesson I learned from Vietnam is not to trust [our own] government statements. I had no idea until then that you could not rely on [them]": - James W. Fulbright: US senator who initiated the international exchange program for scholars, 1905-1995 "The victor will never be asked if he told the truth": - Adolf Hitler "Justice in the life and conduct of the State is possible only as first it resides in the hearts and souls of the citizens": Plato: Ancient Greek philosopher (428/427- 348/347 B.C.) "Military justice is to justice what military music is to music": Groucho Marx: American comedian, actor and singer, 1890-1977 "In war, there are no unwounded soldiers": Jose Narosky "If my soldiers were to begin to think, not one would remain in the ranks": Frederick The Great "The means of defense against foreign danger historically have become the instruments of tyranny at home" - James Madison: US fourth president, 1751-1836 "This and no other is the root from which a tyrant springs; when he first appears he is a protector" - Plato: Ancient Greek philosopher (428/427-348/347 B.C.) "The welfare of the people in particular has always been the alibi of tyrants, and it provides the further advantage of giving the servants of tyranny a good conscience" - Albert Camus: French novelist, essayist, and playwright.1957 Nobel Prize for Literature. 1913-1960 "Perhaps the most obvious political effect of controlled news is the advantage it gives powerful people in getting their issues on the political agenda and defining those issues in ways likely to influence their resolution.": W. Lance Bennett - Author, professor at University of Washington Source: News: The Politics of Illusion, 1983 "Make men wise, and by that very operation you make them free. Civil liberty follows as a consequence of this;